Dear readers,
I just realised this blog is really dead. No one visits here. Ever. But then again, I am not one who easily has his opinion swayed by others. I have decided to keep this blog going and I will continue to do so.
Peer pressure, peer influences, whatever you call it, is what I hate the most. Many a times, our actions and words are controlled and restricted by our environment. It prevents us from doing what our heart tells us to and this is annoying. We should be driven by our ideals and beliefs and should advance with how our heart tells us to. Why should we let our friends or the others around us control our actions and dominate us? We are living creatures. We ought to be the one in dominance of ourself.
Yes, I do agree that certain logical explanations may eventually successfully change our perception but it should really be minimised. We should be the one coming up with our own logical explanations and think it through thoroughly. Once the thinking is done, our decision should be "locked up" and shield it from any external criticisms or comments.
One example would be my decision to flush my fishes down the toilet bowl. They were fighting and their scales were peeling off. Their chance of survival is zero. So I had to make this hard decision of how I should deal with them. Toss aside my humanity and kill them or do injustice myself by allowing them to die inside the pond and stink up the entire aquarium?
Logical thinking means doing what is beneficial to me. Obviously the former fits my perception of "logical thinking" and thats decided. Despite how my younger brother cried and plead for me to allow those fishes to stay in the pond, I scooped them up and tossed them into the toilet bowl. And with a single push of a button, they ended up...I dont know where.
To give an answer and a conclusion to this blog post, standing firm in one's decision means to come up with a definitive decision/stand that is derived from logical thinking based on nothing but benefits to oneself. There is no need for ethical issues/emotions to interfere with your decision making. Of course, as long as no laws are broken in the process, sympathy, empathy consideration of other's feelings need not be part of anything. Its only when you discard these useless emotions in the thinking process, you will be able to stand up firm to the comments and criticisms you face. Humans are interesting creatures.
A person's perception of truth is what a person truly believes. So in order to stand firm in your decision/opinion, you need to make yourself think that something is the truth. And the easiest way is to reason with yourself. So if you are able to persuade yourself that sympathy, empathy, whatever is not to be involved in the issue at hand, then no matter what reasonings someone com up with based on those factors will affect you one slight bit.
Another example would be the death of someone close. Persuade yourself that EVERYONE has to die and it just so happens that the time is now. As for the precious memories you shared with the late whoever, is something of the past and will not fade away along with that person's life. In that case, there is nothing more between you and the dead that will take place and thus there is no need for you to miss him/her. That way, you probably wont even cry in the funeral itself because there is nothing for you to grief about. You have accepted the fact that it is expected of him to be in the coffin and you have persuaded yourself that whoever is inside the coffin is of no significance to you. Thus, there will be no need to miss that person and so you cant be grieving over anything.
People who stand firm are people who discarded their emotions. Any one with emotions will eventually break down, and that is hardly firm. (Lols. Nice oxymoronic pun. "Hardly" "firm" is not firm at all. Haha)
-Lime
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